“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down and it has made all the difference in my life.”
I went to the movie today. I came in a little late and the trailers had already started. As I sat down I heard the line, “Always remember, the Universe has a way of leading you to where you’re supposed to be at the moment you’re supposed to be there.” (From Men in Black: International).
That has stuck with me all day. It will probably always stick with me. Of course I knew this about the Universe, but I guess I needed to be reminded, and the Universe reminded me.
We don’t always understand why things happen the way they do, but when we gain some space, time, and perspective, and then look back on the significant events of our lives, we can see how the Universe led us there. If we’re lucky, we can even identify those moments when we were exactly where we were “supposed to be.” I have been able to connect the dots numerous times in my own life, after gaining the aforementioned time and perspective, finally understanding why things happened the way they did. We all have, I’d guess, if we’re attentive, perceptive, and observant enough to listen.
I needed to be reminded of this because the last two years have been very rough on me: the break up of my decades-long relationship, my only child graduating from high school and preparing to leave for college, my intense fear and apprehension about my future, my troubling doubt that I will ever find romantic love that is healthy, respectful, mutual, and deep. There have been a few winks from the Universe along the way, telling me I am on the right path, but there has been nothing that has eliminated all uncertainty. At times it has felt as if the Universe has turned its back on me.
But I continue. I get up each day, not sure where I am headed or how I’ll know when I’ve arrived. I just know that winks here and there from the Universe have shown me that I am where I need to be. These signs have also comforted me, giving me confidence and courage that everything will work out the way it is supposed to.
I have had to suspend doubt, fear, and uncertainty (a lot more difficult than it sounds). I have had to forge ahead. I have had to trust that there is a larger plan afoot and right now I am not informed of all the details. I don’t have enough information yet to “connect the dots.” Even though the journey has been painful at times, I trust without hesitation in the wisdom, love and order of the Universe.
Always remember that the Universe is not random. We all have a purpose for being here, and lessons we must learn. Whatever happens in our lives is for our own highest good. What may seem difficult, painful or unfair has happened for our own spiritual growth. I believe that with every fiber of my being. Maybe the meaning of it all will not be clear to us until later, but there is a meaning.
So once I emerge from the muck and mire and get some distance from this painful time in my life, the difficulty I have endured over the past couple years will make sense to me. I will finally “connect the dots,” and I will recognize when it happened that the Universe led me to where I was supposed to be at the moment I was supposed to be there. Whatever difficulties you’ve gone through will make sense too. Because life is not random. Such randomness doesn’t even make sense. There is a rhyme and reason to my life, your life, everyone’s life, if we just slow down for a moment and listen.
So look back over your life with curiosity, compassion and open-mindedness and find those moments when the Universe led you to where you were supposed to be. I know you’ll find them.
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